10 Reasons Why Christians Are “Bored with God”

Have you ever wondered why your faith doesn’t mean more to you than it does? Why so many professing believers appear to be no different than anyone else? Why a small group of elite Christians appear to really be “on fire” for Jesus? I mean, if God is so great, why aren’t of His own people more passionate and excited about Him?

Good questions.

I know a lot of people who think of themselves as “Christian”. So do you. But other than a few moral standards and the fact that they occasionally attend a church, there’s not a huge contrast between them and their non-christian counterparts. Deep down inside, their hearts are just as empty, their families just as dysfunctional, their lives equally without direction and meaning.

So why are these so-called “followers of Jesus so mediocre? Why so bland? So uninteresting? So B-O-R-I-N-G?

Though the list below isn’t exhaustive, here’s ten reasons for you to chew on:

1. While most Christians struggle with the challenges of life, many live defeated lives, never achieving the “more than conquerers” victory that’s supposed to be the normal experience of those who have been redeemed.

2. Many professing Christians simply stop growing, the process of sanctification (becoming like Jesus) is often short-circuited by sin, Satan or self. They end up as spiritual children living in adult bodies.

3. Many have never taken the time to really understand salvation – what took place at the cross, contemplating their dark, sinful condition and future outside of Christ, and bathing in the infinitely deep ocean of God’s grace and love. Understanding how and why God saved you is fuel for a very happy life.

4. They don’t know how great their Lord is. I mean, how could they? They rarely, if ever, crack open the Book God wrote to reveal Himself to them. Ignorance of the mind-blowing truths in Scripture concerning who God is and how amazing His attributes are is a guaranteed one-way ticket to Bland Land. True theology is never, ever boring, but rather it infuses our hearts with awe and wonder, producing pure, explosive heart-worship.

5. We like comfort. Living for Jesus is hard, and most don’t have the lungs for the long, uphill race. So we rest comfortably by the snack table, occasionally admiring those who jog by on their way to maturity.

6. We refuse to exercise faith in the daily challenges of life, and almost never branch out and trust God for something truly supernatural, especially if it might cost us a bundle. We run from sacrifice and suffering. Fear rules our decisions. Not faith. Safety and security becomes our style, influencing everything from friends to finances. And that makes GOD yawn…and grieve. 

7. We love the idea that God is Love, but fail to grow past that one, sentimental attribute. Godly discernment, on the other hand, may lead us to actions that others may interpret as unloving. So we continue enabling people in their immaturity and sin – and do it all in the name of love. But in reality, hidden behind this “love” is simply a weak and impotent heart. Boring.

8. We ignore the direct application of God’s Infinitely-Wise Word where it really matters – on the job, at home, in our marriage and in our parenting. And we wonder why we’re so screwed up. We trust in ourselves because having faith seems to complicated and intangible. We settle for “what works” – expediency, pragmatism and peace. And when we do look for advice and counsel, it’s usually from sone just as messed up as we are. Logical?

9. The average Christian only checks into church 2x a month, way too little for it to ever have any real, life-changing impact on their lives. Truth is, there is always a “good reason” to prioritize something else over gathering with your spiritual family – sleep, work, friends, fun, movies, sports on TV, etc.

10. We want God to entertain us. Could we really be honest enough to admit that? We prefer that He act like we want Him to and at the time of our choosing. And when He consistently fails to deliver, we become bored with His “ways”.

But what if…WHAT IF…you resolved to reverse the above trends in the only life that really matters – YOURS?

A boring christian doesn’t necessarily mean that his/her God is boring. But it sure does scream that to the world. 

From where I sit, there appears to be 2 options available:

A. Change your God.

B. Change your understanding of Him and your devotion to Jesus.

So, what’s your plan to change your Christian boredom factor?

7 Ways to Know You’re in the Right Church

 People often share with me their struggle to find the right church for them. Typically, these people are either unchurched or “formerly” churched, meaning they bailed on the idea years ago. Their reasons are varied, but include:

A) It was intellectually/spiritually uninteresting. “The pastor simply couldn’t hold my attention.”

B) It was shallow. “I got sick of ‘How To’ sermons and messages to make me feel good.”

C) It was too impersonal. “I got lost in the crowd and felt like cattle shuffling into the pen each week.”

D) It was too “entertaining”. “If I wanted a concert venue, I’d go see a real band perform. Plus, the pastor tries too hard to be funny and ‘hip’.”

E) It was small, but nobody there my age. “I had trouble connecting, and the people weren’t that friendly.” 

E) “I hate mornings. Period.”

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There are other reasons, of course. But those are some of the biggies I hear. I’ve never heard anyone say, “I left because those people were just too loving. They cared about me personally. The messages were just so biblical and relevant to my life, I had to leave!” 🙂

So what’s a person to do? Should you give up on church altogether? Just sit at home and worship God for 5 minutes and then go walk the dog? Keep in mind, there are no perfect churches, because after all, it’s just people coming together, right? It’s also not about how BIG or SMALL a church is. You can find community in a big church and you can stand in the corner alone and be ignored in a small church. That said, I understand the dilemma. But I still think its worth the long search. My wife and I attended a church while in grad school that gave us a chance to serve, but the pastor (though a great guy) was a sleeping pill in the pulpit. We weighed the options, and since it was temporary, stayed there. Another church we attended for a year had awesome preaching but was a bit too liturgical for my spiritual taste buds. They did the same ritual every week. But it was good for us at the time.

confused-girl“So what’s a girl like me to do?”

Obviously you don’t want to become a serial “church hopper”, either due to your inability to commit or your eternal search for that perfect place of worship. So here are a few things to think about. Seven ways you can know you’ve found the right church for you.

1. You gladly lay aside other (good) priorities and fun pursuits to faithfully be there each week.

2. You call them ‘family’ because that’s exactly what it feels like to you. You find yourself not “going to church” anymore but rather coming together with other believers out of a real need to do so.

3. You are excited and motivated to tell your friends (who need a church) about yours.

4. You look for ways to uniquely serve others in that body with your gifts and personality (doesn’t have to be in an official “ministry”, either).

5. You don’t think twice about regularly sacrificing a portion of the finances God has blessed you with, so that the work there can survive and thrive.

6. The “church service” truly enlightens, deepens and challenges you in your relationship with Christ.

7. You are confident that Jesus and His Word are honored above all else (programs, ministries, presentation, music, pastor, etc)

If you identify with these 7 things, then there’s a really good chance you’ve found your church home. If not, then keep looking. You’re in the wrong church. There’s a group of people out there who need you! There is a church for YOU! If you find yourself in a search right now, go beyond just “visiting” a church this Sunday. Stick around for a while to get the full effect. Give it time. Come back a few weeks.

Keep seeking God and go find your spiritual family this week!